How To Make Friends With Any Woman...

Most people have a preconceived notion that men are territorial, but isn't it men who, welcome another guy with open beers or handshakes to their campfire or garage? And isn't it women who snarl at the mere appearance of an unfamiliar woman entering the room?

It all goes back to the basics of instincts. Of course men are going to be protective of their land, women, children, etc., but it seems that men have a better rational judgment when it comes to other men compared to their own position in the group.

Women on the other hand, tend to judge other women before they even open their mouthes.

Why do they do this? It seems women are threatened by those who are prettier or more achieved than themselves, they may even feel protective of their friends, not wanting them to possibly like someone else more, or at all. As a result they often won't even consider the thought of welcoming you into the group.

So you ask yourself, do I really want to be friends with that you-know-what anyway? Well, even if you did end up chatting it up with her all night and discovering that you have oh-so-much in common, it's highly unlikely you will go shopping with her next weekend, or be calling her on the phone to meet up for coffee. But, the next time you see her out somewhere you will be able to say hi at the least.

Make eye contact. It's almost impossible to avoid, and as soon as your eyes meet, say hi, I'm... If she's still trying to be standoffish, don't let her win by giving up. She may not care to introduce herself, but her name is a minor detail that you will undoubtedly find out later. Proceed to ask her where she is from, she won't be able to avoid a direct question. If you know anyone from the same area, ask her if she knows them. It's widely known that people love to talk about themselves, so ask her what she does. If her friend approaches, introduce yourself to her too. If you can make friends with at least one of them, the other will likely follow suit.

She may also be thinking that you are prettier than her, and be feeling that her social position in the group is threatened, or feeling protective of her man. If you have a guy in your life, slyly let her know it, and that you have kids. This will hopefully put her mind at ease and make her feel a little more optimistic about you.

She may be jealous of something you have, or do for a living or hobby. If she seems to get cranky when someone mentions it, acknowledge the compliment, downplay it, and move on to another topic quickly. You don't have to start praising her by any means, but by eliminating the possible reasons behind her you-know-what-iness you'll make her feel more secure and less hateful.