Recently Britney Spears handed her mother papers stating she could not be around her children due to "unknown for sure" circumstances.
A friend of mine and her on-off-on-off boyfriend have agreed to allow their daughter to stay with the father's mother (Gramma) once every two weeks, after he told her that "there are grandparent's rights you know."
It seems every day I hear a new Grand-Parent's Rights issue. I am just wondering how other mothers feel about "Grand-Parent's rights."
-Jess
7 comments:
I think its stupid! Usually if gramma or granpa are cut off theres a reason, and in my opinion being a grandparents is a priveledge not a right.
i think it is potentially a good thing if not used the wrong way.
in separations and divorces grandparents that were once involved and close to the children are cut out of the picture almost completely sometimes. it is still family.
Legally I don't think grandparents have any rights to their grandchildren and I don't think they should either. Morally, unless there is a good reason I don't think grandparents should be cut out of a child's life when there is divorce or anything like that. Like Heather said, they are still family. I think a lot of the time in these situations, grandchildren are used as bargaining chips in family feuds and that's just not fair.
In New Brunswick, there aren't any "grandparent rights". I have looked into this and found out that only in the case of neglect and abuse and miscare that the grandparents do have "rights".. My son's paternal grandmother used to get mad that she couldn't walk in our home any time she wanted to just see him whenever she pleased. I remember a few days after returning home from the hospital she was upset I would not walk to her house with our son, being only a week old. Even if I hadn't just had a Cesarean, I wouldn't be obligated to go tote my baby around just so she could see him and "keep him for the night", even though I was breastfeeding and didn't want to hand my son over so I could party, like she suggested I should do. She screamed at me once saying: "I'm going to take you to court, I have grandparent rights, you know." There are not any such things in New Brunswick unless the parents are not caring for their children correctly and healthily.
I can't believe she threatened to take you to court
oh wow katie i didn't even know that! i know some places do have this but.. i heard that my ex was trying to convince his mother to go after joint type custody thru gp's rights since he couldn't and so hed have to pay less child support.. not that i was worried lol but nice to know he couldn't even try that lol
That's just gross, Heather! It's sad he was even thinking that just so he wouldn't have to give you more child support. My mom had a friend who's mother looked into "grandparent rights" because one of their daughters wouldn't allow them to see her grandkids because they had been feuding for a few months. Anyway all the justice system told her was that only if the kids were in danger or not being taken care of properly could she step in and have these "grandparent rights". My legal teacher told me the same. It is sad when families use kids as bargaining tools, but it's not always the case. Sometimes in-laws just are plain nutty.
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