Month 33 to 34

Increasing awareness of emotional states

Around their third birthdays, children become more interested in
understanding what motivates the people around them. You may notice your child becoming curious about other people's moods -- wondering why the neighbour is angry or why her father is sad. Attempting an explanation ("Mr Walker is upset because his newspaper didn't come today") helps your child learn that emotions are normal and it's all right to talk about them.

As your child's natural character begins to show more, make it clear that her temperament -- be it quiet, adventurous, reflective, or communicative -- is fine with you. This doesn't mean you shouldn't encourage her to explore different sides of herself, but don't force her to behave in certain ways. A general respect for how she responds to the world will help her feel secure and confident.

Learning to make friends and share

As children get older, they take more interest in socialising. Your child is probably beginning to think of her playmates as friends, and she's learning that small kindnesses -- like sharing and giving -- are part of friendship.

Imaginary friends

Many children, especially those without siblings, create imaginary playmates. Most imaginary friends arrive between two-and-a-half and three years of age. Don't be alarmed by pretend friends. They are a part of your child's developing conscience and value system. They can provide solace and take responsibility for the things your child wishes she hadn't done. Most imaginary friends disappear before a child is six.