For more than a generation, experts have been advising parents to allow their kids to decide when to make the transition from diapers to potty. As a result, the age of toilet training has risen dramatically, as has the incidence of constipation, bladder-control problems, and other potty-related illnesses. Diaper companies have been forced to make larger sizes, (Pampers is pushing for a super-sized disposable diaper for children over 35 lbs) while parents are wrestling with 3 year olds to stay still amid the clean and swap of diaper changes.The old fashioned way of potty training, "naked and $75" in which you remove the diaper, put a portable potty within reach of your toddler and wait for the inevitable accident, seemed to be effective, because kids of that age hate to have 'it' running down their legs. So, in turn they stop the flow, and you rush them to the seat. The $75 was for cleaning the carpet. Within a few days, the child was trained.
If you want to start potty training you child early and ditch the diapers, pick up a potty next time you see one. Don't expect your child to immediately embrace this foreign object but place it in the washroom, or anywhere else your child will see it regularly. If your washroom is on the second floor, put in the playroom or living room during the daytime.Don't push and start slow. Let your child notice the potty and play with it and inform them repeatedly that it is called a potty/toilet/or any other term you wish to use. Also begin remarking to your child during diaper changes, "You peed!" according to what they did, to help them associate with words.
After your child is comfortable with the potty, get some books or a toy, and ask them if they want to sit on the seat, they may not respond but proceed by removing their diaper and attempting to sit them on the potty. If they protest, don't force them to sit on it, put the diaper back on, and try again in a few hours, or the following day. By putting the diaper on after, you are helping them make the association that potty = no diaper, and most kids love being free of theirs.
If they do seem OK with sitting on the potty, get the books or toy and let them play, or read to them while they sit. If anything happens, tell them, "You peed!! Yay!". Don't make them get off right away if they don't want to. Often times the shock of the different feeling from going in a diaper will make them stop the flow, and if you take them off too soon, the may not be fully done.
If you feel that they are done, then put a pair of underwear on him or her, and let them run around, but keep a close eye, and the potty nearby. Watch for signs and if you think they might need to go, ask them again if they want to sit on the potty, and attempt to place them on it. If an accident happens don't get mad, or put shame on them. Again, tell them what they are doing, and attempt to get them back on the potty ASAP.
Most importantly be consistent, you don't have to start off on a marathon training session if you don't want to by any means, but if you work on it for an hour or two in the morning or evening one day, try and do it at the same time the next day and every day after. If you miss a day, it's not a big deal just jump back on the wagon the following day or whenever it seems to fit. Toddlers love to be challenged and love receiving praise after the success of a new triumph.
5 comments:
I have tried being really gentle with my two year old with the whole ptty training issue. But it doesnt seem to be working, I am just wondering if anyone else is diciplining their child when they pee in their underware?
Disciplining your child when they have an ACCIDENT just doesn't seem right. My son is now almost 3 and 1/5 and is now potty trained just in the last 3 weeks. He's had one of two accidents in that time span, but I just tell him it's okay, it was an ACCIDENT and they can happen from time to time. Encourage your child, but also be aware of many of the signs. If they aren't yet showing all of them or a few, chances are they aren't ready yet. Don't push it.
One of the biggest milestones you can watch for is that they stay dry all night. Now, every child is different, so don't expect this at a certain age that books or web material may tell you. Just be patient and know that they aren't always going to be in diapers and there will be a day soon when your little one will be eager to please you by going to the potty! They get quite proud and excited, so you can show them how great it is when they do by throwing a big hurray and clapping and smiles. I gave my son a chocolate chip everytime he went to the toilet. Now he is happy to do it and doesn't expect a reward.
oops I meant 3 and a half, not 1/5. Oh well, doesn't really matter.
Kids are smarter then we give them credit for. My little one is 2 now and from the day she was born i never let her sit in a wet or dirty diaper. For her first birthday we bought her a potty, from that day she never pooped in her diaper and by age 2 she is fully trained even at night. Its all about how much u talk to your kids. You need to let them no its not ok to pee on the floor, even if it was an accident. I dont mean give them a time out or yell at them you just need to talk to them, they will listen when your calm. Dont get to fustrated and dont show them your fustrated they pick up on all emotions and facial expressions you have. Potty training is a process, but try and make it a postive one. The earlier u start training the easier it is because some kids get use to the diaper and think going to the potty is work. I always found stickers to be a good reward as well, not on a chart but just giving it to her. I hope this helps.
I think youre right. Don't yell and make your kid feel like crap (lol) but you have to let them know that it is now OK.
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