At 3 months old, you shouldn't really be expecting her to sleep through the night. A lot of babies don't sleep through the night until close to a year old. At 3 months old, she's probably up because she is hungry or needs something and, in my opinion, letting a baby that young cry themselves back to sleep is not meeting that need. If she just sort of fidgits and whines, sure it'd be perfectly fine to not jump up immediately and go get her but if she started to cry then she probably needs something.
I started at 6mths. She cried for about 45mins but the next night it was 30 mins and the following night was 15 mins. By the end of the week, she was going to bed without a peep. She's 21 mths now and bedtime is a breeze.
The baby owners manual says not before 4 months. Let me tell you the minute my kids turned 4 months I started sleep training. Granted, the generally sleep thru the night with ease, it's the initial bed time falling asleep part they always had trouble with. As a rule, I don't get out of bed unless they wake in the night with full out crying. Usually, it's a kicked off blanket that is the problem but if that's not it I will change and nurse them to calm them and put them right back to bed.
lol i really don't think you should be worrying if your child is only 3 months old and waking up. my daughter slept thru the night at 4 weeks but i also have a young cousin who really didn't sleep thru the night until he was 2 1/2... every child is different. i can't see really a need for forcing a 3 month old to cry it out tho..
it all depends on your definition of cry it out... if you're really worried about having your 3 month old sleeping through the night here's a great e-book that i used on my daughter and am planning on using on my next baby . . . it's not free but completely worth it.. i had tried practally everything on my daughter starting at around 8 months to get her sleeping better .. and this ebook gives you such great instruction and lets you choose what you will allow and it worked GREAT!! http://www.sleepsense.org/
it's not that im worried about, but i really have tried everything, and its like a last resort for me.
lady lipgloss i am not sure if i can do it! how did you last 45 minutes?? I think i will be crying too lol.
this is my first child for anyone who wonders and i want her to sleep all night because it makes me ttoo cranky in the morning when i dont get to sleep all night too and i think that she will have a happier mommy if she does lol.
rebecca what is this ebook? what kind of things does it tell you to do becuase when i mean i have tried everything i really mean it lol.
jessakah i have read your articles on here, and i wonder if you have done crying it out with your kids?
I have used all the methods that I write about on my babies, and I think that it creates a good foundation for them for when, or if, you do decide to let them cry it out. But ultimately, yes, I did have to let them cry it out, but I think that the other methods I used prior to that helped in the transition because, once I finally did start letting them cry themselves to sleep, it did not take long at all. With Austin, it took one night, and he only cried for a out 3 mins. With Olivia, because she was younger it took 2 nights, and she only would cry for about ten minutes. Try to keep in mind that you do not have to let your baby cry full out for 45 minutes without going in to check in order for it to work. If your baby starts to get too wound up, and you can't handle it, go in and tell her it's ok, and to go to sleep, and even if she is still crying, leave the room again without picking her up. It's hard, that's for sure.
Do you have an MP3 player, or walkman? I used to let her cry for say, 3 songs, because when you are sitting there listening to a child cry, 1 minute feels like 5 this way, I couldn't really hear it as bad.
So you're suggesting that she let a 3 month old baby lay in bed and cry for 45 minutes with her only going in to tell her to go to sleep? Wouldn't you think that if a baby is crying for 45 minutes solid that she may, I don't know, NEED something? If you look at the crying it out "research" you'll see that that's not how this "method" is intended.
Here's what Dr Sears has to say about sleep and crying it out (http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp)
"Be discerning about using someone else's method to get your baby to sleep. Before trying any sleep-inducing program, you be the judge. Run these schemes through your inner sensitivity before trying them on your baby, especially if they involve leaving your baby alone to cry. Does this advice sound sensible? Does it fit your baby's temperament? Does it feel right to you?
"If your current daytime or nighttime routine is not working for you, think about what changes you can make in yourself and your lifestyle that will make it easier for you to meet your baby's needs. This is a better approach than immediately trying to change your baby. After all, you can control your own reactions to a situation. You can't control how your baby reacts. Use discernment about advice that promises a sleep-through-the-night more convenient baby, as these programs involve the risk of creating a distance between you and your baby and undermining the mutual trust between parent and child. On the surface, baby training sounds so liberating, but it's a short-term gain for a long-term loss. You lose the opportunity to get to know and become an expert in your baby. Baby loses the opportunity to build trust in his caregiving environment. You cease to value your own biological cues, your judgment, and instead follow the message of someone who has no biological attachment, nor investment, in your infant.
"Especially in the first six months, avoid sleep trainers who advise you to let your baby "cry-it-out." Only you can know what "it" is and how to respond appropriately to your baby. Using the rigid, insensitive "let-him-cry-it-out" method has several problems. First, it will undermine the trust your baby has for nighttime comfort. Second, it will prevent you from working at a style of nighttime parenting until you find the one that works best for you and your family and third, it may keep you and your doctor from uncovering hidden medical causes of nightwaking. Nightfeedings are normal; frequent, painful nightwaking is not.
To the original poster, before you resort to what I consider a cruel method of getting baby to go to sleep for you, check out www.askdrsears.com and see some of his tips for getting baby to go to sleep and stay asleep and his reasoning for why babies that young still wake in the night. He's a very reknowned doctor and his methonds and advice have been published and used in countless areas. I know it's frustrating when your little one gets up in the night and I can understand that you're tired...but frankly, that's part of being a mother and it will pass. Just hang in there.
i just read all these commets nobody sugested that i should let my baby cry it out for 45 minutes.... and excuse me, but what right do you have to make me feel that i am being crule for letting my baby cry. you can take your negative energy elsewhere thanks. i didnt ask who thinks its right or worng, i just wanna know at what age!! so you and dr so and so can stay out of it thank you, i dont need you making me feel like i am a bad mother.
First off, no one can "make" you feel like you're a bad mother. If you harbor those feelings, they are your own for your own reasons. Don't try and peg it on someone else. Secondly, like I said before the recommendation is not until 6 months if you do it at all and finally, I was simply showing you that there are other methods than crying it out. You can do whatever you like with your children. I'm not, and no one else seems to be either, saying "do this and only this"...I'm simply suggesting look at other methods and I think you all need to calm the heck down.
At 4 months old I would put my son in his crib for the night after I changed, feed him and read a story. I would time for 10 mins and if he was crying then Me or my hubby would go in and NOt pick him up from his crib but just touch him and tell him it was nap time. We would have to go in about 4 times a night and then after a month he was fine with just sleeping all the way through. Now he is 2.5 and he is still sleeping beautifully in his own bed. We used the same technique when we put him to bed..we would go in every 10 mins and put him back to bed. you could try this but every child is different also but i think it might help you. Good luck!
Not even talking to you about being made to feel like a bad mother, ladylipgloss. That comment was directed to Kendra's comment. And who should get off the off the cuff remarks and start reading? Hmm...
Wow! Chill out! If you don't want to hear what people who might think differently than you do have to say...don't post on a public forum on the internet! God! Get over yourselves! Everyone raises their children differently and not everyone is going to agree with you or coddle you when you go "waaaaaaaaaa my 3 month old won't sleep through the night and I'm craaaaaaaaaaaanky" or "boo hoo you big meanie". You're all setting wonderful examples for your children.
Anonymous I think you need to just calm down. If you believe that no one can MAKE you feel like a bad mom, then you must not be a mother, or you must not hang around with other mothers at all because other people have a huge influence on how people feel about themselves. Especially when it comes to child rearing.
I know it's a little old school... but Rice Pablum works very well. Generally most babies wake up from hunger... pablum is more filling than milk... therefore the baby will sleep longer.
Worked perfectly for both my daughters who are teens now and both are perfectly healthy. They were on pablum from the day I brought them home from the hospital (about 4 days old). Keep it thin and start off slowly to give the baby time to adjust. It doesn't take very much to fill their little bellies. Keep in mind that this won't help with collick though... only for babies who wake up for feedings through the night. It works like a charm for hungry babies!!! Both my daughters slept all night (8 - 10 hours) from the time I brought them home.
Use your own judgement though... if your baby is collicky or spits up a lot this may not be the option for you. If they are big eaters and generally calm babies... it's a perfect solution regardless of what any book tells you.
Keep in mind that according to these books civilization as we know it should be extinct... my mother fed me carnation milk as a baby... I didn't die from it!!! (I'm not recommending that... just making a point lol) My daughters were both on table food at about 4 months old... both still perfectly healthy... one graduates this year and is starting her undergrad for med school... the other has excellent marks and is a very active cheerleader... deffinately no side effects from feeding them when they were hungry as young babies.
I'm not trashing the various books... but it seems like most of them contradict one another and has led to some very confused young moms. (I am 35 and had both my kids very young so relied on my mom a lot for advise) When my first was born babies slept on their stomaches, when my second was born babies were to sleep on their sides, now they are to sleep on their backs (or at least that was last year when my neice was born!!!). "Research" changes constantly.... do what you feel is right!!! Healthy babies are very adaptable to whatever choices you make and if you feel your baby is waking up because they are hungry... then they probably need something a little heavier than milk.
I've cried it out a few times with the boys. First and foremost you have to make 100% sure they are not hungry, they've recentl had a dirty diaper (so you know it's probably not gas pains etc.) and you KNOW they are tired. If all three fit then you should feel okay letting your baby cry to learn to self sooth. Sure it's easier to pick them up and rock them or nurse them but they need to learn to sleep. Now, Logan will cry for about 8 minutes and then fall asleep. It's a hard 8 minutes but he needs to sleep. Good Luck!
I just want to add too that just because most babies sleep through the night at 3 months then their baby should too. Sadly it's not the case and that babies reach their milestones when they are ready and while we may desperately want them to sleep - they are the boss!
Just as I said Jessika... "some" professionals condradict each other and this leads to confusion. I've certainly never heard that newborns should be woken up through the night for their health... but "some" expert probably has said that... alot of contradiction exists.
As I mentioned, Rice pablum works well for babies who do not suffer from collick. And of course, if after trying pablum your baby is fussy then I wouldn't necessarily continue. The biggest problem is that they may be gassy if you feed them from a spoon... just because they suck in more air when eating off a spoon.
So I'll tell you the secret that worked with my girls... I used to put a couple of teaspoons of pablum right in a bottle of milk and use a larger nipple. I always burped them really well and never had any issues at all. As they got older, the amount of pablum mixed in the milk increased, until I had to start cutting a small "X" in the nipple because it was too thick to pass through a hole. I know... "some" experts would consider this child abuse...lol. Several other mom's I know did the same thing... and also never had any problems. It has to be Rice pablum though... it's easy to digest. My best friend's son was very collicky and she and I discussed that pablum may not agree with him... so she held off until he was about 3 months old then started him on pablum and didn't have any problems at all.
The advise I received from the VON nurse who came for my 2 week checkup... who is a real life professional... was that once a baby was drinking more than 30oz of milk a day... regardless of age, it was time for pablum.
This is one suggestion that worked well for me... I'm not saying it works for everyone but I do think a mom knows if her baby is only awake because they are hungry. Following the advise of "some" expert to a tee isn't right for everyone. Babie's don't come with manuals because every one is different!!!
What you have to remember about "professional" advice is that not all "professionals" are up to date on what the current recommendations are. Some doctors and nurses will suggest you put cereal in a bottle and in VERY few cases it might actually be warranted (like a baby with severe reflux, for example). In all other cases, it's nothing more than a choking hazard and completely contradicts Health Canada and the World Health Organization's guidelines on infant feeding. Numerous studies have also shown that introducing solids early has absolutely no impact on your baby sleeping through the night. Furthermore, the doctor who came up with crying it out never intended it to be used on a child younger than 6 months old. If your baby is flat out crying, he needs something whether it's a cuddle or a diaper change or whatever. Fussing or whinning can be left alone for a few minutes to see what happens, in my opinion. But if my baby is crying, I'm going to go see what's wrong.
I have 2 girls, the first slept through the night at 6 weeks because she feed all evening so she was full enough to sleep. My second is almost 7 months now and still gets up every 2 hours in the night to eat. I have been trying everything but crying it out because I dont think that is the answer for her because she is hungry. I tried feeding her rice cereal before bed but then she is up 2 hours later crying in pain, I have tried to get to to cluster feed in the evening but then she spits it all up so for me im stuck getting up in the night but I have been going to bed earlier and during the day if I get both the girls to nap I nap.
I'm so sorry it took me so long, I'm a bit behind.
basically the biggest thing was getting a bedtime routine.. not to long (i think 30 mins max) ..ex. having a bath, putting some lotion on, read a book, and nurse/bottle, and the key thing put them to bed awake *without* any 'props' (soother or even you) so they can learn to go to sleep on their own without your help.
now you can either leave the room and if crying starts go back in in a few mins and say a phase you pick out so they know it's bedtime (ex. i used nighty night, and actually still do almost 2 years later :P) and try not and pick them up and keep increasing the time you go in by a few mins with having a max mins (say 10mins though i think but I'm not sure the book said something like 30 mins.. i just could never do that myself)
OR you can stay in the room right where they can see you but *don't* touch them or you'll become their prop to get to sleep. keep with the phrase every few mins but don't say anything else. Every night keep moving closer to the door til you're walking out right after putting them to bed.
and as for the night wakings the book says to let them cry for 5 mins before going in, (and keep increasing if it takes them a while to go back to sleep just like at bed time.)
also a early bedtime is a great idea (and i think is a part of the book) i put my kids to bed at 7-ish though I was putting my girl to bed at 6:30 til she was 14 months. she was getting up about 8 or 9 every morning then now I'm lucky to sleep til 6 (though that has nothing to do with the early bedtime as it does with having a very small apartment with 2 kids - my son (8 months) started getting up at 5:30 to eat - I'm thinking it's yet another growth spurt - and while he'll go back to bed his sister won't since it's not dark out anymore - i just have to get even darker curtains lol for their room)
also (though it's an obvious thing that and has been mentioned above) make sure your little one isn't waking up because they're hungry, has a dirty diaper, is scared, hurt or other reasons like that. their type of cry says it all. your baby's only way to communicate to you is by crying, as long as you are in tune to their needing something cry then. you're getting them to learn something new, and they're protesting, just as anyone would if their regular routine was messed up. a example in the book was if you were always slept with a pillow but suddenly you had to sleep without you wouldn't like it and would have to get use to sleeping without it. even adults have bedtime routines, where some people's are long and complex others may be as simple as turning off lights and going to bed.
Wow, you've received an awful lot of suggestions, Kendra. I hope that one or more of them work for you.
With regards to using rice pablum as a means of getting your child to sleep through the night: A lot of recent evidence suggests that exclusive breast-feeding until 6 months lowers the risk of your baby developing allergies, so I would avoid using solids as a solution to getting your baby to sleep through the night as Anonymous suggests. Although, recognize that studies are providing you with statistics. Feeding your baby rice pablum BEFORE six months does not necessarily mean that your child will DEFINITELY develop allergies. Many babies have grown up on formula and started solids earlier than 6 months and lived happy and healthy lives! :-)
I do agree with several posters that it is important to make sure that your baby's needs are met before letting him/her cry it out, and to monitor the TYPE of cry that you hear. Ultimately, I used "cry it out" with my 4-month-old, and she goes down for naps without minimal problems. It took more than 45 minutes the first time which was HARD. And, if her cries became (or become) desperate, I check on her. Once last week, she elevated from a whimper to a scream in less than a minute, which is highly unusual - when I got upstairs, she had flipped herself on to her tummy at was uncomfortably positioned in the corner of the crib - an important message that it is worthwhile to check on your baby if she is crying it out and the nature of the cry changes.
But now she's down with basically no fuss at all for naps and bedtime. She was sleeping 10 hours. but now at 5 1/2 months she is beginning to wake in the night because of teething, and I think also because she needs to nurse more. Development is not always a straight line!
Kendra, one other important thing for your baby might be to adapt your daytime structure, as someone else suggested above. Although we are not militant about the timing, we organize our baby's day in ~3-hour wake/feed/play/sleep cycles, and always start her day at the same time, so that her daytime schedule is pretty regular. This means that she pretty much knows when it's time to go down, even if she doesn't always sleep the same amount each time (babies are people, they have good and bad days, too...). But anyway, it helped us to develop a sense of the best time of day to put her down for the night, and it might help you, too. (With our baby, she usually gets her evening feed at 7pm and goes down at ~8:30pm. Then she either stays down or we wake her one more time in the evening to feed and diaper her, at which point she stays down for the night.)
Anyway, Kendra, sorry that this is so long. I wanted to share my experience with you, and to support you in your sense that there are many ways to put your baby to sleep, and very few rights and wrongs (apart from "Don't drop your baby on its head." I've never found anyone who disagrees with that rule...).
ahhh too many posts to go through! So I didn't read to see if anyone else said this .... but I was always told that if you were ready to let your child "cry it out" or whatever you want to call it .. it needs to go in cycles
For example:
Night 1: Let the baby cry for 10 mins, go in comfort him or her, respond to whatever the "need" is Night2: Let the baby cry for 15 mins .. see the trend? Just slowing increase the crying time, eventually it just fades out
Might work .. dunno .. but for those that think its "cruel" to let a baby cry for any long period of time .. this might be something to try. My daughter slept through the night since 5 weeks. And when I went in to check on her, I would just talk very calm, no lights no, nothing stimulating at all, and just tell her its time for bed
Babies wake up because they are supposed to wake up. This is part of being a parent, don't try to change nature. Waking up frequently protects your baby from dying of sids where they stop breathing during deep sleep. Also pablum/cereal in milk is hard on a baby's stomach. I agree with Jessika on the two points she made about this. Be patient and be a mom, it's all part of the job. Try co-sleeping, parenting the baby to sleep (check Dr. Sears), rocking, and please, respond to your baby's cries, this will ensure that she trusts you to come to her when she needs you.
Wow, there are a lot of comments on here (some, not so nice, lol or helpful for that matter)....I dont have time to read all of them but I wanted to tell Kendra my experiences with "crying it out". I was against crying it out in the beginning. I thought it was cruel and followed everything Dr Sears had to say about getting kids to sleep. My daughter slept with me until she was 9 months old. I finally had enough and, after trying everything else Dr Sears said, decided to give "crying it out" a try, even though I was very doubtful that it would work with me daughter ( I really thought she would just scream until got sick). I did some research on www.parenting.com and made my own rules (how long to let her cry, how often to go in, whether to pick her up, etc). It only took a couple of nights for her to get the hang of it. She cried for like 15-30 minutes the first night but it wasn't screaming or hysterical. Now she is a pro at getting herself to sleep and it is so much easier! Of course, it was a bit easier since she was sleeping through the night already, so she didnt really wake up (just a little cry every now and then).
My suggestion is you go with your gut feeling. You know your baby. Personally, I think 3 months is a little too earlier, maybe you should wait until he/she is at least 6 months. But, again, you know your baby and how well he/she will handle it.
I agree with the last comment about waiting until 6 months. I think 3 months is wayyy to early. I have a health nurse that has been with my family for 2 babies,ages 2 years and 4 months. My first slept all night from 6 weeks and then started getting up every 2 hours at 7 months. She told me to let him cry for 1 mintue then go in and settle him, then 2 mintue then go and settle him, then 3 mintues and so on up to 10 mintues. I never usally got to more then the 7 mintue each night. It worked like a charm. By the 6 night of doing this he was sleeping all night again.
My new baby girl(4month) gets up every hour to hour and 45 mintues and in 2 more months I will try this again with her. Im alot more sleepy in the morning now because I have to get up with my 2 year old no matter how many hours of sleep I get. ( which he is still a good sleeper by the way not getting up until 8 or 9am) If you only have one baby at home you should be sleeping when they sleep or at least trying to. But like I have explained to my husband.... when a baby is so young and not able to keep herself entertain herself, Im sure the world is a scary place and the only thing your baby really knows is you.
I think if your baby needs you or needs to hear you in order to calm down then you should reassure her that you are there. Just like if you were upset about something you would call your mom or a friend or your husband to hear someones else voice telling you everything is ok.
ok girls, I am a nurse, pediatrics and neonatal nursing is my specialty. Here is my professional opinion! Babies cry for a reason. I'm wet, hungry, cold, lonely, bored, sick, in pain.... you can not ignore a crying baby. it is cruel. Babies cry for need under 6 months of age. your baby needs you. go to her. as for cranky mommy, sleep when your baby sleeps. I have a 4 months old now, he is awake every night from 0300 - 0600. I sleep when baby sleeps. its survival. (I get cranky too, that's life, and why chocolate exists).
I'm a nurse too and though I agree with what you say about why babies cry, I just have to step in and say that it's not so easy to just "sleep when the baby sleeps"...especially when you have more than one child. A lot of the time, you use baby sleep time as an opportunity to have some time to yourself or get things done around the house or eat or shower.
I recommend reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Mark Weissbluth. It is very informative. Many babies will not naturally get on a good sleeping schedule, they need help from mom to do that. Because babies start out needing to be fed so much and come to adore the companionship of mommy and the comfort of nursing, they need a little help to break the habits of waking 2-3 times per night to be fed (which is not needed if they are a normal weight at 4 months). Sleep training has worked for all three of my children and it has not happened until I took the initiative to "train" them. I actually read three books and custom made a program I felt best about... it was when he/she cries, wait 5 minutes. Then I would go soothe him/her by giving the binkie, stroking the cheek and saying it's not time to eat, you need to sleep. If crying continued, I went back and did the same thing after 10 minutes of crying, then 20, then 45. They were all sleeping through the night within a couple of nights, and we didn't have to listen to that much crying (though it may seem like a lot at the time). It is worth it and good for both you and the baby. Don't listen to people who say it's abusive or try to make you feel guilty.
I think you jsut have to try different things and eventually you will find something that works you and your baby. I personally, loved the no-cry solution book for helping babies sleep. It has some really great tips. Although at 3 months I did let them cry it out and it worked breat for both of my children. By the 3rd night we were on track. I did incorporate alot of the tips from the book though. (such as bedtime routine and calming tips). I know using the "no-cry solution" book and cry-it out method together sounds contradicting, but that is just what worked for us. Combining both.
hi anonymous, just wondering when you did sleep train your one month did you let them cry until they fell asleep? did you have a max time you would let them cry before you called it a night. I'm thinking about letting my 3 month old cry it out but i dont think ill be able to do more than 10 mins lol. also would i have to do it with naps also? she doesnt nap for more than 30 mins in her crib.
Kendra, i have a 3 yrs old and a 3 months old girls and I totally understand what you are saying. My 3 yrs old has never been a great sleeper so I want to train my 3 months old as soon as possible. I know what you mean about other people making you feel guilty or bad.. I experience that a lot. I find that when people(other mothers) have gone past certain age of their kids and they forget how hard it was during those times. My newborn was feeding every 1.5 hrs for 6 weeks and even my dr said she wasn't feeding so often because of hunger..she had gained so much weight since birth so she is healthy. She cries during every car ride, needs to be held / carried during every nap, my body just cannot do it anymore physically!! My ultimate goal is not really for her to sleep through the night (more than 5 hrs in my opinion) although that would be nice haha..I just want her to be able to sooth herself to sleep instead of the breast or me bouncing her in the sling/bjourn all day long. Hang in there I am sure you are doing the best you can even with the little sleep you get : )
Honestly I think it up to the parent with which route they go. I have read people saying that the baby must want something if it is crying. Yes, they want you. If they have been fed, burped, changed, etc and all they do is cry because you have left then let them cry it out.
My son sleeps the night, and has since day 3, but crying it out has other uses. Unless of course you wish to create a demon child that cries nonstop each time they do not get what they want.
It seems to be that people want to do what makes them feel best even if it ruins a child or their future and studies are then created to support these things. The youth are becoming wilder and wilder and we wonder why when we are told to nurture only and no punishments can be given without criticism.
So my advice is to harden your heart some and let them learn that you are there but only if really needed. You will know when there is an actual issue. If worried set up a blanket down low where they cant see you and sleep close.
i am a new mom.. my daughter is 3 months old and i sleep with her in my bed because she feeds at least 3 times a night and will cry constantly if hungry. I strongly believe that as a mother you should make the sacrifice of getting up to feed your poor little baby during the night. young babies need to eat regularly during the day( every 2 - 3 hours). Why would anyone think it ok to starve a baby for a lengthy 8 hours. What do you think it will do to it's delicate stomach!? It is a MEAN and SELFISH thing to do! as an adult i cannot sleep if i am experiencing hunger pains! of couse a little baby wont either! if u care for your baby, take proper care of it. it's not about your comfort anymore!!!!! wishing the babies of selfish parents, good luck!!!!
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Personally I don't think you should let a child cry it out but all the "research" says not under 6 months old
ok. my daughter is 3 months old and not sleeping through yet. i have tried about every other thing. this is like a last resort for us...
At 3 months old, you shouldn't really be expecting her to sleep through the night. A lot of babies don't sleep through the night until close to a year old. At 3 months old, she's probably up because she is hungry or needs something and, in my opinion, letting a baby that young cry themselves back to sleep is not meeting that need. If she just sort of fidgits and whines, sure it'd be perfectly fine to not jump up immediately and go get her but if she started to cry then she probably needs something.
I started at 6mths. She cried for about 45mins but the next night it was 30 mins and the following night was 15 mins. By the end of the week, she was going to bed without a peep. She's 21 mths now and bedtime is a breeze.
The baby owners manual says not before 4 months. Let me tell you the minute my kids turned 4 months I started sleep training. Granted, the generally sleep thru the night with ease, it's the initial bed time falling asleep part they always had trouble with. As a rule, I don't get out of bed unless they wake in the night with full out crying. Usually, it's a kicked off blanket that is the problem but if that's not it I will change and nurse them to calm them and put them right back to bed.
Oh and she's been sleeping through the night since then, as well. She may still wake up but is able to soothe herself.
lol i really don't think you should be worrying if your child is only 3 months old and waking up. my daughter slept thru the night at 4 weeks but i also have a young cousin who really didn't sleep thru the night until he was 2 1/2... every child is different. i can't see really a need for forcing a 3 month old to cry it out tho..
it all depends on your definition of cry it out... if you're really worried about having your 3 month old sleeping through the night here's a great e-book that i used on my daughter and am planning on using on my next baby . . . it's not free but completely worth it.. i had tried practally everything on my daughter starting at around 8 months to get her sleeping better .. and this ebook gives you such great instruction and lets you choose what you will allow and it worked GREAT!!
http://www.sleepsense.org/
it's not that im worried about, but i really have tried everything, and its like a last resort for me.
lady lipgloss i am not sure if i can do it! how did you last 45 minutes?? I think i will be crying too lol.
this is my first child for anyone who wonders and i want her to sleep all night because it makes me ttoo cranky in the morning when i dont get to sleep all night too and i think that she will have a happier mommy if she does lol.
rebecca what is this ebook? what kind of things does it tell you to do becuase when i mean i have tried everything i really mean it lol.
jessakah i have read your articles on here, and i wonder if you have done crying it out with your kids?
Kendra,
I have used all the methods that I write about on my babies, and I think that it creates a good foundation for them for when, or if, you do decide to let them cry it out. But ultimately, yes, I did have to let them cry it out, but I think that the other methods I used prior to that helped in the transition because, once I finally did start letting them cry themselves to sleep, it did not take long at all. With Austin, it took one night, and he only cried for a out 3 mins. With Olivia, because she was younger it took 2 nights, and she only would cry for about ten minutes. Try to keep in mind that you do not have to let your baby cry full out for 45 minutes without going in to check in order for it to work. If your baby starts to get too wound up, and you can't handle it, go in and tell her it's ok, and to go to sleep, and even if she is still crying, leave the room again without picking her up. It's hard, that's for sure.
Do you have an MP3 player, or walkman? I used to let her cry for say, 3 songs, because when you are sitting there listening to a child cry, 1 minute feels like 5 this way, I couldn't really hear it as bad.
Good Luck if you decide to give it a go.
So you're suggesting that she let a 3 month old baby lay in bed and cry for 45 minutes with her only going in to tell her to go to sleep? Wouldn't you think that if a baby is crying for 45 minutes solid that she may, I don't know, NEED something? If you look at the crying it out "research" you'll see that that's not how this "method" is intended.
Here's what Dr Sears has to say about sleep and crying it out (http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp)
"Be discerning about using someone else's method to get your baby to sleep. Before trying any sleep-inducing program, you be the judge. Run these schemes through your inner sensitivity before trying them on your baby, especially if they involve leaving your baby alone to cry. Does this advice sound sensible? Does it fit your baby's temperament? Does it feel right to you?
"If your current daytime or nighttime routine is not working for you, think about what changes you can make in yourself and your lifestyle that will make it easier for you to meet your baby's needs. This is a better approach than immediately trying to change your baby. After all, you can control your own reactions to a situation. You can't control how your baby reacts. Use discernment about advice that promises a sleep-through-the-night more convenient baby, as these programs involve the risk of creating a distance between you and your baby and undermining the mutual trust between parent and child. On the surface, baby training sounds so liberating, but it's a short-term gain for a long-term loss. You lose the opportunity to get to know and become an expert in your baby. Baby loses the opportunity to build trust in his caregiving environment. You cease to value your own biological cues, your judgment, and instead follow the message of someone who has no biological attachment, nor investment, in your infant.
"Especially in the first six months, avoid sleep trainers who advise you to let your baby "cry-it-out." Only you can know what "it" is and how to respond appropriately to your baby. Using the rigid, insensitive "let-him-cry-it-out" method has several problems. First, it will undermine the trust your baby has for nighttime comfort. Second, it will prevent you from working at a style of nighttime parenting until you find the one that works best for you and your family and third, it may keep you and your doctor from uncovering hidden medical causes of nightwaking. Nightfeedings are normal; frequent, painful nightwaking is not.
To the original poster, before you resort to what I consider a cruel method of getting baby to go to sleep for you, check out www.askdrsears.com and see some of his tips for getting baby to go to sleep and stay asleep and his reasoning for why babies that young still wake in the night. He's a very reknowned doctor and his methonds and advice have been published and used in countless areas. I know it's frustrating when your little one gets up in the night and I can understand that you're tired...but frankly, that's part of being a mother and it will pass. Just hang in there.
i just read all these commets nobody sugested that i should let my baby cry it out for 45 minutes.... and excuse me, but what right do you have to make me feel that i am being crule for letting my baby cry. you can take your negative energy elsewhere thanks. i didnt ask who thinks its right or worng, i just wanna know at what age!! so you and dr so and so can stay out of it thank you, i dont need you making me feel like i am a bad mother.
Kendra, I started sleep training at 3 months because thats what my nurse advised me.
I agree with ladylipgloss because you can tell the difference of a cry when a baby has something wrong..
First off, no one can "make" you feel like you're a bad mother. If you harbor those feelings, they are your own for your own reasons. Don't try and peg it on someone else. Secondly, like I said before the recommendation is not until 6 months if you do it at all and finally, I was simply showing you that there are other methods than crying it out. You can do whatever you like with your children. I'm not, and no one else seems to be either, saying "do this and only this"...I'm simply suggesting look at other methods and I think you all need to calm the heck down.
At 4 months old I would put my son in his crib for the night after I changed, feed him and read a story. I would time for 10 mins and if he was crying then Me or my hubby would go in and NOt pick him up from his crib but just touch him and tell him it was nap time. We would have to go in about 4 times a night and then after a month he was fine with just sleeping all the way through. Now he is 2.5 and he is still sleeping beautifully in his own bed. We used the same technique when we put him to bed..we would go in every 10 mins and put him back to bed. you could try this but every child is different also but i think it might help you. Good luck!
Not even talking to you about being made to feel like a bad mother, ladylipgloss. That comment was directed to Kendra's comment. And who should get off the off the cuff remarks and start reading? Hmm...
Wow! Chill out! If you don't want to hear what people who might think differently than you do have to say...don't post on a public forum on the internet! God! Get over yourselves! Everyone raises their children differently and not everyone is going to agree with you or coddle you when you go "waaaaaaaaaa my 3 month old won't sleep through the night and I'm craaaaaaaaaaaanky" or "boo hoo you big meanie". You're all setting wonderful examples for your children.
Anonymous I think you need to just calm down. If you believe that no one can MAKE you feel like a bad mom, then you must not be a mother, or you must not hang around with other mothers at all because other people have a huge influence on how people feel about themselves. Especially when it comes to child rearing.
Anyways... back to the topic at hand....
I know it's a little old school... but Rice Pablum works very well. Generally most babies wake up from hunger... pablum is more filling than milk... therefore the baby will sleep longer.
Worked perfectly for both my daughters who are teens now and both are perfectly healthy. They were on pablum from the day I brought them home from the hospital (about 4 days old). Keep it thin and start off slowly to give the baby time to adjust. It doesn't take very much to fill their little bellies. Keep in mind that this won't help with collick though... only for babies who wake up for feedings through the night. It works like a charm for hungry babies!!! Both my daughters slept all night (8 - 10 hours) from the time I brought them home.
Use your own judgement though... if your baby is collicky or spits up a lot this may not be the option for you. If they are big eaters and generally calm babies... it's a perfect solution regardless of what any book tells you.
Keep in mind that according to these books civilization as we know it should be extinct... my mother fed me carnation milk as a baby... I didn't die from it!!! (I'm not recommending that... just making a point lol) My daughters were both on table food at about 4 months old... both still perfectly healthy... one graduates this year and is starting her undergrad for med school... the other has excellent marks and is a very active cheerleader... deffinately no side effects from feeding them when they were hungry as young babies.
I'm not trashing the various books... but it seems like most of them contradict one another and has led to some very confused young moms. (I am 35 and had both my kids very young so relied on my mom a lot for advise) When my first was born babies slept on their stomaches, when my second was born babies were to sleep on their sides, now they are to sleep on their backs (or at least that was last year when my neice was born!!!). "Research" changes constantly.... do what you feel is right!!! Healthy babies are very adaptable to whatever choices you make and if you feel your baby is waking up because they are hungry... then they probably need something a little heavier than milk.
I've cried it out a few times with the boys. First and foremost you have to make 100% sure they are not hungry, they've recentl had a dirty diaper (so you know it's probably not gas pains etc.) and you KNOW they are tired. If all three fit then you should feel okay letting your baby cry to learn to self sooth. Sure it's easier to pick them up and rock them or nurse them but they need to learn to sleep. Now, Logan will cry for about 8 minutes and then fall asleep. It's a hard 8 minutes but he needs to sleep. Good Luck!
I just want to add too that just because most babies sleep through the night at 3 months then their baby should too. Sadly it's not the case and that babies reach their milestones when they are ready and while we may desperately want them to sleep - they are the boss!
I am no expert but I just want to add a couple things that I have read in the past.
1- Some professionals believe you should not ALLOW let a lone encourage a newborn baby to sleep through the night, for health reasons.
and 2- Giving a newborn baby pablum can be REALLY hard on a digestive system for a new baby.
Just as I said Jessika... "some" professionals condradict each other and this leads to confusion. I've certainly never heard that newborns should be woken up through the night for their health... but "some" expert probably has said that... alot of contradiction exists.
As I mentioned, Rice pablum works well for babies who do not suffer from collick. And of course, if after trying pablum your baby is fussy then I wouldn't necessarily continue. The biggest problem is that they may be gassy if you feed them from a spoon... just because they suck in more air when eating off a spoon.
So I'll tell you the secret that worked with my girls... I used to put a couple of teaspoons of pablum right in a bottle of milk and use a larger nipple. I always burped them really well and never had any issues at all. As they got older, the amount of pablum mixed in the milk increased, until I had to start cutting a small "X" in the nipple because it was too thick to pass through a hole. I know... "some" experts would consider this child abuse...lol. Several other mom's I know did the same thing... and also never had any problems. It has to be Rice pablum though... it's easy to digest. My best friend's son was very collicky and she and I discussed that pablum may not agree with him... so she held off until he was about 3 months old then started him on pablum and didn't have any problems at all.
The advise I received from the VON nurse who came for my 2 week checkup... who is a real life professional... was that once a baby was drinking more than 30oz of milk a day... regardless of age, it was time for pablum.
This is one suggestion that worked well for me... I'm not saying it works for everyone but I do think a mom knows if her baby is only awake because they are hungry. Following the advise of "some" expert to a tee isn't right for everyone. Babie's don't come with manuals because every one is different!!!
I don't really mean to be rude, and I am not trying start a nit-picking so there is no need to say things like that..
I simply would check all the adverse affects of feeding a new baby solids. It can do more harm than good....
What you have to remember about "professional" advice is that not all "professionals" are up to date on what the current recommendations are. Some doctors and nurses will suggest you put cereal in a bottle and in VERY few cases it might actually be warranted (like a baby with severe reflux, for example). In all other cases, it's nothing more than a choking hazard and completely contradicts Health Canada and the World Health Organization's guidelines on infant feeding. Numerous studies have also shown that introducing solids early has absolutely no impact on your baby sleeping through the night. Furthermore, the doctor who came up with crying it out never intended it to be used on a child younger than 6 months old. If your baby is flat out crying, he needs something whether it's a cuddle or a diaper change or whatever. Fussing or whinning can be left alone for a few minutes to see what happens, in my opinion. But if my baby is crying, I'm going to go see what's wrong.
I have 2 girls, the first slept through the night at 6 weeks because she feed all evening so she was full enough to sleep. My second is almost 7 months now and still gets up every 2 hours in the night to eat. I have been trying everything but crying it out because I dont think that is the answer for her because she is hungry. I tried feeding her rice cereal before bed but then she is up 2 hours later crying in pain, I have tried to get to to cluster feed in the evening but then she spits it all up so for me im stuck getting up in the night but I have been going to bed earlier and during the day if I get both the girls to nap I nap.
Kendra,
I'm so sorry it took me so long, I'm a bit behind.
basically the biggest thing was getting a bedtime routine.. not to long (i think 30 mins max) ..ex. having a bath, putting some lotion on, read a book, and nurse/bottle, and the key thing put them to bed awake *without* any 'props' (soother or even you) so they can learn to go to sleep on their own without your help.
now you can either leave the room and if crying starts go back in in a few mins and say a phase you pick out so they know it's bedtime (ex. i used nighty night, and actually still do almost 2 years later :P) and try not and pick them up and keep increasing the time you go in by a few mins with having a max mins (say 10mins though i think but I'm not sure the book said something like 30 mins.. i just could never do that myself)
OR you can stay in the room right where they can see you but *don't* touch them or you'll become their prop to get to sleep. keep with the phrase every few mins but don't say anything else. Every night keep moving closer to the door til you're walking out right after putting them to bed.
and as for the night wakings the book says to let them cry for 5 mins before going in, (and keep increasing if it takes them a while to go back to sleep just like at bed time.)
also a early bedtime is a great idea (and i think is a part of the book) i put my kids to bed at 7-ish though I was putting my girl to bed at 6:30 til she was 14 months. she was getting up about 8 or 9 every morning then now I'm lucky to sleep til 6 (though that has nothing to do with the early bedtime as it does with having a very small apartment with 2 kids - my son (8 months) started getting up at 5:30 to eat - I'm thinking it's yet another growth spurt - and while he'll go back to bed his sister won't since it's not dark out anymore - i just have to get even darker curtains lol for their room)
also (though it's an obvious thing that and has been mentioned above) make sure your little one isn't waking up because they're hungry, has a dirty diaper, is scared, hurt or other reasons like that. their type of cry says it all. your baby's only way to communicate to you is by crying, as long as you are in tune to their needing something cry then. you're getting them to learn something new, and they're protesting, just as anyone would if their regular routine was messed up. a example in the book was if you were always slept with a pillow but suddenly you had to sleep without you wouldn't like it and would have to get use to sleeping without it. even adults have bedtime routines, where some people's are long and complex others may be as simple as turning off lights and going to bed.
Wow, you've received an awful lot of suggestions, Kendra. I hope that one or more of them work for you.
With regards to using rice pablum as a means of getting your child to sleep through the night: A lot of recent evidence suggests that exclusive breast-feeding until 6 months lowers the risk of your baby developing allergies, so I would avoid using solids as a solution to getting your baby to sleep through the night as Anonymous suggests. Although, recognize that studies are providing you with statistics. Feeding your baby rice pablum BEFORE six months does not necessarily mean that your child will DEFINITELY develop allergies. Many babies have grown up on formula and started solids earlier than 6 months and lived happy and healthy lives! :-)
I do agree with several posters that it is important to make sure that your baby's needs are met before letting him/her cry it out, and to monitor the TYPE of cry that you hear. Ultimately, I used "cry it out" with my 4-month-old, and she goes down for naps without minimal problems. It took more than 45 minutes the first time which was HARD. And, if her cries became (or become) desperate, I check on her. Once last week, she elevated from a whimper to a scream in less than a minute, which is highly unusual - when I got upstairs, she had flipped herself on to her tummy at was uncomfortably positioned in the corner of the crib - an important message that it is worthwhile to check on your baby if she is crying it out and the nature of the cry changes.
But now she's down with basically no fuss at all for naps and bedtime. She was sleeping 10 hours. but now at 5 1/2 months she is beginning to wake in the night because of teething, and I think also because she needs to nurse more. Development is not always a straight line!
Kendra, one other important thing for your baby might be to adapt your daytime structure, as someone else suggested above. Although we are not militant about the timing, we organize our baby's day in ~3-hour wake/feed/play/sleep cycles, and always start her day at the same time, so that her daytime schedule is pretty regular. This means that she pretty much knows when it's time to go down, even if she doesn't always sleep the same amount each time (babies are people, they have good and bad days, too...). But anyway, it helped us to develop a sense of the best time of day to put her down for the night, and it might help you, too. (With our baby, she usually gets her evening feed at 7pm and goes down at ~8:30pm. Then she either stays down or we wake her one more time in the evening to feed and diaper her, at which point she stays down for the night.)
Anyway, Kendra, sorry that this is so long. I wanted to share my experience with you, and to support you in your sense that there are many ways to put your baby to sleep, and very few rights and wrongs (apart from "Don't drop your baby on its head." I've never found anyone who disagrees with that rule...).
Good luck!
ahhh too many posts to go through! So I didn't read to see if anyone else said this .... but I was always told that if you were ready to let your child "cry it out" or whatever you want to call it .. it needs to go in cycles
For example:
Night 1: Let the baby cry for 10 mins, go in comfort him or her, respond to whatever the "need" is
Night2: Let the baby cry for 15 mins .. see the trend? Just slowing increase the crying time, eventually it just fades out
Might work .. dunno .. but for those that think its "cruel" to let a baby cry for any long period of time .. this might be something to try.
My daughter slept through the night since 5 weeks. And when I went in to check on her, I would just talk very calm, no lights no, nothing stimulating at all, and just tell her its time for bed
Babies wake up because they are supposed to wake up. This is part of being a parent, don't try to change nature. Waking up frequently protects your baby from dying of sids where they stop breathing during deep sleep. Also pablum/cereal in milk is hard on a baby's stomach. I agree with Jessika on the two points she made about this. Be patient and be a mom, it's all part of the job. Try co-sleeping, parenting the baby to sleep (check Dr. Sears), rocking, and please, respond to your baby's cries, this will ensure that she trusts you to come to her when she needs you.
Wow, there are a lot of comments on here (some, not so nice, lol or helpful for that matter)....I dont have time to read all of them but I wanted to tell Kendra my experiences with "crying it out". I was against crying it out in the beginning. I thought it was cruel and followed everything Dr Sears had to say about getting kids to sleep. My daughter slept with me until she was 9 months old. I finally had enough and, after trying everything else Dr Sears said, decided to give "crying it out" a try, even though I was very doubtful that it would work with me daughter ( I really thought she would just scream until got sick). I did some research on www.parenting.com and made my own rules (how long to let her cry, how often to go in, whether to pick her up, etc). It only took a couple of nights for her to get the hang of it. She cried for like 15-30 minutes the first night but it wasn't screaming or hysterical. Now she is a pro at getting herself to sleep and it is so much easier! Of course, it was a bit easier since she was sleeping through the night already, so she didnt really wake up (just a little cry every now and then).
My suggestion is you go with your gut feeling. You know your baby. Personally, I think 3 months is a little too earlier, maybe you should wait until he/she is at least 6 months. But, again, you know your baby and how well he/she will handle it.
I agree with the last comment about waiting until 6 months. I think 3 months is wayyy to early. I have a health nurse that has been with my family for 2 babies,ages 2 years and 4 months. My first slept all night from 6 weeks and then started getting up every 2 hours at 7 months. She told me to let him cry for 1 mintue then go in and settle him, then 2 mintue then go and settle him, then 3 mintues and so on up to 10 mintues. I never usally got to more then the 7 mintue each night. It worked like a charm. By the 6 night of doing this he was sleeping all night again.
My new baby girl(4month) gets up every hour to hour and 45 mintues and in 2 more months I will try this again with her. Im alot more sleepy in the morning now because I have to get up with my 2 year old no matter how many hours of sleep I get. ( which he is still a good sleeper by the way not getting up until 8 or 9am) If you only have one baby at home you should be sleeping when they sleep or at least trying to. But like I have explained to my husband.... when a baby is so young and not able to keep herself entertain herself, Im sure the world is a scary place and the only thing your baby really knows is you.
I think if your baby needs you or needs to hear you in order to calm down then you should reassure her that you are there. Just like if you were upset about something you would call your mom or a friend or your husband to hear someones else voice telling you everything is ok.
ok girls, I am a nurse, pediatrics and neonatal nursing is my specialty. Here is my professional opinion! Babies cry for a reason. I'm wet, hungry, cold, lonely, bored, sick, in pain.... you can not ignore a crying baby. it is cruel. Babies cry for need under 6 months of age. your baby needs you. go to her. as for cranky mommy, sleep when your baby sleeps. I have a 4 months old now, he is awake every night from 0300 - 0600. I sleep when baby sleeps. its survival. (I get cranky too, that's life, and why chocolate exists).
I'm a nurse too and though I agree with what you say about why babies cry, I just have to step in and say that it's not so easy to just "sleep when the baby sleeps"...especially when you have more than one child. A lot of the time, you use baby sleep time as an opportunity to have some time to yourself or get things done around the house or eat or shower.
I recommend reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Mark Weissbluth. It is very informative. Many babies will not naturally get on a good sleeping schedule, they need help from mom to do that. Because babies start out needing to be fed so much and come to adore the companionship of mommy and the comfort of nursing, they need a little help to break the habits of waking 2-3 times per night to be fed (which is not needed if they are a normal weight at 4 months). Sleep training has worked for all three of my children and it has not happened until I took the initiative to "train" them. I actually read three books and custom made a program I felt best about... it was when he/she cries, wait 5 minutes. Then I would go soothe him/her by giving the binkie, stroking the cheek and saying it's not time to eat, you need to sleep. If crying continued, I went back and did the same thing after 10 minutes of crying, then 20, then 45. They were all sleeping through the night within a couple of nights, and we didn't have to listen to that much crying (though it may seem like a lot at the time). It is worth it and good for both you and the baby. Don't listen to people who say it's abusive or try to make you feel guilty.
I think you jsut have to try different things and eventually you will find something that works you and your baby. I personally, loved the no-cry solution book for helping babies sleep. It has some really great tips. Although at 3 months I did let them cry it out and it worked breat for both of my children. By the 3rd night we were on track. I did incorporate alot of the tips from the book though. (such as bedtime routine and calming tips).
I know using the "no-cry solution" book and cry-it out method together sounds contradicting, but that is just what worked for us. Combining both.
hi anonymous,
just wondering when you did sleep train your one month did you let them cry until they fell asleep?
did you have a max time you would let them cry before you called it a night.
I'm thinking about letting my 3 month old cry it out but i dont think ill be able to do more than 10 mins lol.
also would i have to do it with naps also? she doesnt nap for more than 30 mins in her crib.
thanks
cynthia
Kendra, i have a 3 yrs old and a 3 months old girls and I totally understand what you are saying. My 3 yrs old has never been a great sleeper so I want to train my 3 months old as soon as possible. I know what you mean about other people making you feel guilty or bad.. I experience that a lot. I find that when people(other mothers) have gone past certain age of their kids and they forget how hard it was during those times. My newborn was feeding every 1.5 hrs for 6 weeks and even my dr said she wasn't feeding so often because of hunger..she had gained so much weight since birth so she is healthy. She cries during every car ride, needs to be held / carried during every nap, my body just cannot do it anymore physically!! My ultimate goal is not really for her to sleep through the night (more than 5 hrs in my opinion) although that would be nice haha..I just want her to be able to sooth herself to sleep instead of the breast or me bouncing her in the sling/bjourn all day long.
Hang in there I am sure you are doing the best you can even with the little sleep you get : )
I think Kendra and Anonymous should fight it out in a mud-wrestling match!
Honestly I think it up to the parent with which route they go. I have read people saying that the baby must want something if it is crying. Yes, they want you. If they have been fed, burped, changed, etc and all they do is cry because you have left then let them cry it out.
My son sleeps the night, and has since day 3, but crying it out has other uses. Unless of course you wish to create a demon child that cries nonstop each time they do not get what they want.
It seems to be that people want to do what makes them feel best even if it ruins a child or their future and studies are then created to support these things. The youth are becoming wilder and wilder and we wonder why when we are told to nurture only and no punishments can be given without criticism.
So my advice is to harden your heart some and let them learn that you are there but only if really needed. You will know when there is an actual issue. If worried set up a blanket down low where they cant see you and sleep close.
i am a new mom.. my daughter is 3 months old and i sleep with her in my bed because she feeds at least 3 times a night and will cry constantly if hungry. I strongly believe that as a mother you should make the sacrifice of getting up to feed your poor little baby during the night. young babies need to eat regularly during the day( every 2 - 3 hours). Why would anyone think it ok to starve a baby for a lengthy 8 hours. What do you think it will do to it's delicate stomach!? It is a MEAN and SELFISH thing to do! as an adult i cannot sleep if i am experiencing hunger pains! of couse a little baby wont either! if u care for your baby, take proper care of it. it's not about your comfort anymore!!!!! wishing the babies of selfish parents, good luck!!!!
Ummm, yes there is such a thing as shaming other people, which is what you were doing.
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