"My son was invited to a birthday party two weeks ago, I had arranged for him to be driven by the birthday parents because I wasn't sure if my husband would be home to drive him, anyways, a few days before the mother say's oh sorry the van is full, that's after she said he could go with them, so he didn't go, at school he was teased about it, so we went out and bought her a little present, since then the mother has made it pretty obvisous that Emma isnt' allowed to talk to him, he was at the park on saturday and she biked by and he said Hello the mother, told her daughter not to speak to him Gretzky (husband) told me I am so mad but i don't know what to say to him because before Emma has slept over a half a dozen times and use to come to my house and bike everyday now she's never allowed. he cried the day of her party I felt so bad for him and this mother did the same thing at halloween, she made plans with us and then at the end she decided the kids were going with someone else, so what should i tell my teary eyed son when he asks to call her and invite her to play and how do I explain the actions of the mother, also I want to say something to her for hurting my kid"
Amanda
5 comments:
Have you had a conversation with this womens mother to see her problem is? Stuff like this makes me so mad!
Well I said to her when she informed me that the van was full, "Thanks for not remembering again, I suppose I should have known better." That's all I said. I've never cared for her personally, she's lazy and keeps her youngest in the house all day, but I've always welcomed our home to her daughter because my son and her were best friends.
This is unfortunatley very common. Mother's make plans,then re-think things as the time gets closer. As the mother of 4 (oldest being 13 and youngest being 3) I learned this very quickly. I never usually tell my kids yes or no to anything like this until the last minute, and I have learned to rely on no one but my husband or I to transport the kids. If it ends up they can go with a friend or the "party parents" great! However; it is pathetic to agree to drive a child and then drop him! Even if the number of kids is an oversight, the first ones needing a drive should be first, the last minute kids needing drives should be the ones turned down. (With apology I might add.) If you are not friends with the mother I wouldn't worry too much. (She sounds like she needs to grow up.) Encourage your child to make other friends, or develop closer friendships with other kids he knows. Kids soon forget and move on. (To bad as adults it was that easy!)
Thanks, I certainly was looking for a friend when I came here, however I'm not desperate and I don't want my child acting like he is either. You're right that parents forget and plans change all the time but this mother is a little different. It's unfortunate because her kids have great potential to succeed in life but she's teaching them to be rude. And to tell your seven year old to not speak to a friend is clear proof to me that kids learn from there parents. Hopefully my son will find that great friend that enjoys the same things as he does. I want him to have that satisfying feeling you get from a great friendship. In the meantime, I guess I just need to say " Not today" when he asks to phone her to go biking. Hopefully he'll soon forget.
You know, I think that the 3rd poster is soooo right when she said that, its the parents who are hurt more than the kids, and kids are often upset by their parent's reactions to things. I also agree that he will soon forget. I have seen kids in my extended family being picked on so-to-speak (around 9 years old) and they do move on fast. Don't worry A. cus soon you will be back in Freddy :)
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