"I know this has been discussed before but I am wondering when another toddler is taking things from mine, mine usually gets get really upset. so my question is, unless my toddler is being hurt by the other, should I just stand back and let her learn to deal with it herself? I am not ALWAYS going to be there."
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Well if you don't let her deal with it on her own, what else do you think you can do? Take the toy from the other toddler and give it back to yours? They don't understand give and take, they only understand mine. Give her another toy or distract her if she gets upset.
Yeah, I just am wondering if I should let her 'get tough' so to speak... or if I should jump in ...?
I don't think she needs to get tough, so to speak. Kids will be kids and toddlers don't understand the concept of sharing so if she tries to take the toy back, it's probably going to make a bad thing worse. Distraction is probably your best bet if you need to intervene at all.
so you dont think i should let her learn to stick up for herself sans mommy?
i think the point was that toddlers aren't being mean so at this point there are no bullies and no need to 'stand up for herself' toddlers are just impulsive and want what they want when they want it. a child will be quick to take a toy from another child if they decide to and at the same time another child could be juut as quick to take a toy from that child.
i dont think you know what i mean. but thank anyway
The way I read it is you're describing your child needing to stand up for herself meaning that another child is doing something to her that may be mean...and what I (and someone else) is saying is that toddlers don't know how to be mean, they don't understand give and take and they don't understand sharing and playing "together" with other children. There is no need for a toddler to have to "stand up for themselves" because they can't comprehend meaness or standing up for themselves for that matter. If we're off base, maybe you could explain it better?
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