"I just had a new baby 2 weeks ago and my toddler 2.5 is acting up alot!!! She will not listen to me at all, i have tryed timeouts and it just doenst work with her. she mocks what I say, and it is so frustating, my husband is working away all during the weeks and I dont get a break, not to mention i am sick right now. any of you go through this? I need some serious help before I lose my mind!!!"
Nicole
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I can only imagine how frustrated you must be and I'll be right there with you in a few weeks! It's very common for first child to regress and do bad things in order to get attention from you when second child comes into the picture. You've only had this new baby for a little over 2 weeks. Give your child a little more time to adjust. It's been a big change for her too. She has to share Mommy's time where she never had to before and she probably doesn't understand the high demands of a new baby. Try to give her positive attention and set aside some "mommy and me" time when baby is asleep.
We went through similar problems when our youngest came home. We had to be firm with time outs no matter how much she screached and hollered, but on that same note, we put "big girl chart" in place where she had her own big girl chores that she would do to help out with the new baby. Receiving blankets were lowered to her height and a few other things that were her job to help me with. We also went shopping for a new "Baby" of her own, with baby accessories to go along with it, so as I was changing diapers - so was she. I'd feed...so would she - bath time...you got it - she did too. Letting her play Mini Mommy helped alot and gave her the sense that she was spending more time with me when she was playing Mommy along side of me. When baby napped - that was our special time together. We'd play for about 20 minutes at something quiet...then (Thank Gawd) we'd both nap together. It was hell for a short bit...but passed very quickly once she got her own baby :) Hope that helps :)
the chart is a good idea, no matter how bad this sounds, i reward her for going potty and it works, she is fully trained at 2.5. sahe seems to just not care about timeouts, it doesnt bother her at all. and she has dolls.
I am experiencing the same thing, any advice from those who have been there would be very appreciated!!! :)))))
I have 4 children,(number 5 on the way!!) I have been through this repeatedly! Letting your youngest help and making him/her feel big...like you can't do it without her/him, does help. And although having the new baby is exhausting at times, and it is easier to give in then hold your ground...remember between age 2-5 it is a battle of the wills! You have to be more stubborn and determined then your toddler! (And that can be a full time job in itself a lot of the time!) But hold your ground... the new baby novelty will soon wear off and your toddler will realize her/his world is o.k. Lots of reassurance, hugs and kisses help too. And praise the positive and try to down play negatives... your little one will soon realize there's lots of mommy to go around.( in my case by 4 times!!) Best of luck.
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