"My 3 year old has always noticed I think that other kids her age have fathers, but just recently has started asking about him, and he is not in her life at all. I don't really know what to tell her....
-Need some advice, Mel"
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well, I've been in your situation. My son was fatherless for four years. It's a challenge to come up with the an answer for your little one, but I said, "We are a special family, we have grandpa, etc, and one day we will find a great dad to add to our family but for now we are a family with us." When they are older we can tell the plain truth. Now I am married and my son calls my husband dad, and he say's this is my dad, I'm adopted. " Good luck and just remember what you choose to do by raising a daughter alone is a very brave thing and although you probably hurt for her because you think she's missing out, everything happens for a reason.
I was lucky my little guy was only "fatherless" for just over 2 years. (Lucky for us he has a wonderful daddy now, and I have a great husband!) He knows he is adopted by his dad, and we have always been open about that with him (he is almost 8 years old now)I do think that is the key.
Tell the child the truth. But make sure you do not say anything bad about the Father, for someday your child will/might want to meet him. Let your child make his/her own mind up about the father.If the Father does not want anything to do with the chlid, will make sure that the child knows it is not their fault.Every family is different from the others. As long as your child knows that he/she is loved no matter what.
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well, I've been in your situation. My son was fatherless for four years. It's a challenge to come up with the an answer for your little one, but I said, "We are a special family, we have grandpa, etc, and one day we will find a great dad to add to our family but for now we are a family with us." When they are older we can tell the plain truth. Now I am married and my son calls my husband dad, and he say's this is my dad, I'm adopted. "
Good luck and just remember what you choose to do by raising a daughter alone is a very brave thing and although you probably hurt for her because you think she's missing out, everything happens for a reason.
Just be honest with her and explain to her how every family is different.
I was lucky my little guy was only "fatherless" for just over 2 years. (Lucky for us he has a wonderful daddy now, and I have a great husband!) He knows he is adopted by his dad, and we have always been open about that with him (he is almost 8 years old now)I do think that is the key.
it just breaks my heart.
honesty usually works best
Tell the child the truth. But make sure you do not say anything bad about the Father, for someday your child will/might want to meet him. Let your child make his/her own mind up about the father.If the Father does not want anything to do with the chlid, will make sure that the child knows it is not their fault.Every family is different from the others. As long as your child knows that he/she is loved no matter what.
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