"I have been having a terrible day so far with my two year old. I just need a place to vent. Could be the terrible twos, I don't really know. It started off first thing this morning. I went to to change my toddler, and she was kicking like mad, this was a poopy diaper too. Not fun. I tried saying NO, that didnt faze her, so I slapped her on the butt.. not something I normally do, but it worked, she cried for about 3 seconds, then stopped. Then, I tried putting her in her highchair for some lunch, again the kicking and thrashing.. I got so mad I just left her crying in her highchair for a few mins while I went outside to cool off. Could be my horemons I guess. Don't get me wrong she is normally a great kid, better than most.. so I hear. I am hopeing that this day gets better.. Thanks for listening.. "
-Ms. Best
6 comments:
holy, must be going around. my 8 month old is pretty whiny today. nothing seems to be satisfying him. you did the right thing to walk away and cool off. that's what I do.
It could be the terrible twos, i wouldnt know yet. this is my first child. im sure it will pass. just do what is best for yourself and your daughter. a happy mom is more important than you think. this might be an intrusive question, but where is the father, or do you have anyone else who might take her for the day so you wan have a break?
this is my first too, and on days like this, I think it will be my last.
i too am sure it will just pass with time, its getting there that is the hard part. she is napping right now so i am having a break as we speak.
I can relate. My first two children were only 14 months apart! (Did you catch that...my FIRST two...the third came 4 years after the second and the fourth 4 years after that and guess what...#5 will be here in 3 months!!) Guess what... I can totally relate!! My oldest is 13 now and I've had lots of days like that! It does help to get out...go have a couple hours in the evening to have lunch or coffee with a girlfriend or sibling you are close to. And talk to anyone that will listen...it does help to vent especially to people who understand when you say you feel like your "losing your mind", or you think you might "kill your kids" People who won't call the local authorities or the men in long white coats to come take you away!!! You will have lots of those days. I also have provided child care in my home for the past 8 years. And still my own kids are the only ones to drive me crazy!! However; to hear the horror stories from some of my Parents about the kids I keep and think are angelic tells me something...we all deal with it! And honestly for the most part it feels like the bad days out weigh the good...especially when you have a large family all spread out...to have a day when everyone is all happy at once...absolute miracle! Take time to cool down for sure...don't let it bother you to put a screaming, angry baby or toddler in their bed, shut the door, step outside and take some deep breaths. As long as you know nothing is wrong with your child they will get over it... and learn to pacify themselves at the same time...as well as learning it's not always about them, and no they won't always get their own way. (Better to deal with it now then when they are 16!!!) Best of luck. Remember you are the boss, in control...be more persistant and stubborn then your kids! In fact I met an older gentleman at Kent's the other day as we were waiting in quite a lengthy line at the contractor's desk...He commented on how well behaved my kids were...how well they listened. I patted my stomache and said "with this being #5 they better listen or I could never leave the house"!! Just remember your little one is as individual as you they have crappy days too...don't you just wish we could start kicking and screaming when we felt things weren't going the way we thought they should?!! best of luck!!
lol, thanks for that. You made me laugh. I probably amm too easy on her most of the time, and thats why I feel bad when I do have to stop up and be the boss. I probably should be more strict I guess. My boyfriend thinks she is out of control! I don't think so. I mean, i guess she has HUGE temper tantrums, but when she is good she is a very good well behaved child. you know?
Mother of 4 going on 5 just wanted to add...don't give in. Ignore the tantrums, or put her directly in her bed with no words if she dicides to throw one that is the quickest way to end that. (And belive me you want that to end...nothing worse then letting it go until they turn 3 or 5 or 10!!! I realize it is easier to give in... but I guess parenting is not easy!!(So I've learned!) In fact it is down right exhausting a lot of the time! I wish you all the best...Just vent as often as necessary...it helps!!
I can totally relate Ms Best...I think we all have those days were we all wish we could just throw ourselves on the floor and have a big ol tantrum!! I had the same thing with my daughter between 2-3 yrs she would fight me like crazy when it was time to change her diaper. If it was poopy and absolutely nesessary for a change, I would just be firm and get it done , even if I had to kind of hold her down and strap the thing on!! lol I'd just say, "it's okay if you want to be mad, but we need to change your diaper now, so you can cooperate or we can do it the hard way" After awhile she grew out of it. She knew that I meant business.
If its just a pee diaper, I would sometimes just let it go for awhile, you have to pick your arguments or you end up with a power struggle over everything at this age!
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