Mother's Day is one thing. But the latest trend in gift-giving for moms are so-called push presents. Post-delivery room, dads are being nudged to give jewelry and other expensive gifts that reward wives for doing the work of giving birth. What do you think of this trend? Should moms get push presents or is this just a form of materialism taken too far?
Should New Moms Get Push Presents?
Mother's Day is one thing. But the latest trend in gift-giving for moms are so-called push presents. Post-delivery room, dads are being nudged to give jewelry and other expensive gifts that reward wives for doing the work of giving birth. What do you think of this trend? Should moms get push presents or is this just a form of materialism taken too far?
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I don't agree with it, the day should be about having a new child join the family, not about the piece of jewelry you get... I just think its a silly idea...
this is absurd!!! aafter giving birth, the last thing i'm thinking about is what gift i'm gonna get!!! You've already gotten your gift...the beautiful baby you just delivered!!! People are so materialistic!
I think moms deserve a gift after giving birth, it seems like a good way for a man to show his appreciation!
Parenting is a partnership that does not begin the day you bring baby home from the hospital, it starts the moment of conception. Any woman that believes the baby's father just sat back sailed through THEIR pregnancy and delivery while she did all the "work" and expects to be rewarded with an expensive purchased gift is fairly self-centered. I may have physically given birth to our three children, but if anyone should be rewarded, it's my husband for being there to put up with me during the pregnancies, seeing me through the deliveries, worrying about my health and the future for our children. My reward was seeing the look of love and pride on my husband's face as he held our children for the first time. No piece of jewelry would ever replace that.
I don't see a problem in a man giving his wife something nice to show his love and appreciation for what she's gone through in giving birth. It can be a very hard and painful thing to go through, and she did it willingly. It's just a nice thing to do for the woman you love. I think it's a great idea.
For myself I felt that there was no need for a push present. I had received an overwhelming amount of gifts from showers and visitors. In fact I really felt that it was too much. I appreciated the kindness of friends and family but having a child is not about gifts. I would rather my have a cleaning person come in every now and then receive a gift that I would rarely use.
You'd think the baby should be enough of a gift...
I don't think men should feel obligated to buy a present but if they choose to buy something why is that bad. My husband bought me a present after the birth of our first son. It was a little charm for a necklace. After the birth of our second son, he didn't buy anything, but I certainly didn't expect him too either.
I agree with many of the other women on here. For me seeing my child after pushing was a GIFT in itself. Nothing can compare...no jewelry or materialistic thing. And the father showing appreciation by buying something is absurd!! I saw the appreciation my husband had the moment he laid his eyes on his beautiful son!! I dont see why it would be necessary to have to buy something to show that. A simple "honey you did wonderful thank you" would be enough...or even a kiss. But then again thats just my OPINION.
-sini
My boyfriend showed his appreciation by doing lots of things for me and the baby and just being a fantastic father all around.
Although not all partners are the same and have diffrent ideas of how to show appreciation. I just dont think this so called "push present" it should be expected.
Actually no present should be expected! Even christmas and birthday presnents if you think about it. Go to Wikipeida and it defines a present as a voluntary act which does not require anything in return. Even though it involves possibly a social expectation of reciprocity, or a return in the form of prestige or power, a gift is meant to be free.
Actually no present should be expected! Even christmas and birthday presnents if you think about it. Go to Wikipeida and it defines a present as a voluntary act which does not require anything in return. Even though it involves possibly a social expectation of reciprocity, or a return in the form of prestige or power, a gift is meant to be free.
How selfish are we getting? why should any husband/boyfriend have to buy something for his wife/girlfriend giving birth?
As women our bodys were made to give birth, so if you think you need a gift, to show you your husband is greatfull maby kids are not for you. When that baby comes its not all about you any more life revolves around that new baby.
A new baby cost enough money these days so I think we should worry about buying diapers for the next 2 years not making payments on a ring or necklace.
When we have our second child in a couple months, the baby is buying a doll for my 2 year old little girl, so she can do with her new doll what i will be doing with the baby, as well as to keep her involved so she does not feel left out. We are also letting her buy the baby a toy, hoping that she will have a good expierence seeing the baby for the first time.
I guess each to her own but really girls think about it, life is hard and money is tight, why add more pressure and stress that we dont need?
Tara
I can't say a gift should be expected; that would be a bit much. However, if it is a sincere gift instead of a compulsory one, it would be a lovely gesture. Though it is true that my two sons were the best "gifts" ever, feeling that unique appreciation and admiration from my husband was a special kind of gift. Pregnancy followed by labor and delivery can be very taxing events and even without a gift, some well-deserved praise would be great.
Hey, if my husband wanted to get me a gift, I'd take it. Who wouldn't? And anyone who say they wouldn't are lying!
that is too much.. Isn't the baby gift enough? for me just seeing the complete look of awe on daddy's face was more than any present could ever mean. I never needed anything more than to have him by my side as i pushed out both of my children, and i think that women who expect something (except maybe some appreciation) for giving birth are being selfish. I couldn't ask for anything more then my family. they are my blessing and gift.
My husband surprised me with a gift the day our first was born, one from him and one from baby - I thought it was beautiful, not expected... but sooo nice! He has then gone on to give a gift with each baby... I dont see a problem with this, if he has the $$ to spend and wants to give me a diamond to represent each child... I think its wonderful! I then have these later in life to give back to my children...
I love my push gifts!
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