21 Months

How your toddler's growing
Your 21 month old is probably interested in rearranging furniture, assisting with chores, and using her own play shelves, table, and chairs. She might also be able to put on her clothes, wash and dry her hands, or brush her teeth with help.

She's also getting closer to being toilet trained. Sometime between the 18th month and second birthday, most toddlers recognise when they are going to urinate or have a bowel movement. You'll probably notice signs that your child is about to go - she might crouch down or move away. Even after she realises what's happening, she isn't necessarily ready to use her potty but she's getting closer to it.

If your toddler wakes up whimpering in the middle of the night, try to find out why her sleep is being interrupted. She may even be having a bout of night terrors. Once she has calmed down enough to hear you, you could sing her some old-fashioned lullabies.

Your life: setting a routine
Toddlers at this age like things "just so". Along with tantrums and exploration, obstinacy is another hallmark of toddlerhood. Respect her preferences and interests and try to give in on the little things, like what to put on her toast or which top to wear.

Try establishing routines for napping, eating, and going to bed to help her feel more secure and in control. Routines can also make your life easier as long as they're not too rigid. If your child knows what to expect every day, you'll probably encounter less resistance. A predictable way of doing things can also keep you from having to take time to plan each day separately.