My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 2 and I see nothing wrong with that. My daughter did once point to her younger brother and ask what's that? I answered her honestly and said thats his penis. I am not going to make her feel insecure by telling her not to look.
Well here is the story behind the question. When my sister was here yesterday she told me that she could not believe that I let James who is 4.5 watch me change his little sister who is 1 (Julia) and that I should be taking her in another room. That is when I laughed at her, not really knowing if she was serious or not and I told her that I let them bath together too. She got REALLY mad at me and told me that I am not supposed to let kids the opposite sex bath together after the age of 3. I have NEVER heard this before, I told her. And she said that it is because at the age 3 they really start to notice body parts of others. Has anyone else heard this before?
I work with children and I have never been told that before. I know as children get older that is not appropriate, but at such young ages I see no harm in it.
I dont agree with letting kids bath together, I no ppl do it and thats them i dont care but I would never it just doesent seam right to me. A diaper change is a bit different, you cant always take the child out of the room.
I bath my babies together everynight (15 mths and 2 yrs). Its so convenient and they seem to really enjoy spalshing around with eachother. I think when they are preschool aged or so it may be inappropriate. Yeah..maybe around 4.
If you can't let a sibling at a young age be part of helping to change a diaper, I think it's going too far. My first three are boys, and my last two are girls, and my boys enjoy helping me change the baby's diaper. They've been instructed on privacy issues (only you touch you, knock on closed doors, etc.), but we are sooooo messed up in our society on that stuff. Yes, as children age they should not be bathing together, but you can make TOO big of a deal about it, and instead of diaper changing and baths being normal, we'd rather make them uncomfortable about those things, and then when they are older expose them to our s**ually-charged culture. I personally think you're fine with the ages your kids are, and your sister is being too uptight. It's very innocent and a great chance to let him be a big helper.
so you dont let your children swim in public pools then? lol, because everyone knows how much pee is in a pool in a day. I mean,if youre not going to wash the tup after say, one kid has peed in it and then the other kid sits in the same tub with no water, its pretty much the same thing.
i dont think its good to bath the kids together and yes i do wash the tub before i will give the kids a bath. I also give them a shower first because I dont like sitting in dirty bath water so once the kids were old enough to stand up really well I started this. We also take our kids swimming but as soon as we get home its bath time. Every parent is different and it also has alot to do with how you were raised so do whatever you think is best for your kids as long as they are being taken care of and loved thats all that matters.
I think its is perfectly fine to bath your children together. I think by the time they start school, then it is time for them to bath alone. But while they are still young, I think there is definitely no problem in them bathing together. And about washing the tub and making your kids shower before they get in, all I can say is wow. Obviously your kids dont go to daycare or playgroups if you are that concerned because I am pretty sure being around other children and their germs would be alot worse than some dirt in the bathtub.
I have to laugh at some of the comments. Just because we are all mothers, and if someone tries to put down what we are doing as a Mom, we get VERY defensive .. obviously! LOL
In regards to pee in the tub .. well your own child could be in that tub alone, and still Pee in that water .. so what's the difference? lol And I agree that the chemicals found in public pools are much worse for a child then a little pee in a tub.
Showering your child, then bathing? .. this is just MY opinion, i'm certainly entitled to it, but don't you think your being a tad bit neurotic? When I read that, I immediately thought of Bree from Desperate Housewives lol . Not that having a clean child is a bad thing! .. but wow, that's a little nuts!
Last, but not least .. to comment on what this post is really about. My children do bathe together. one is 4.5 and the other is 2. And when my oldest starts Kindergarten in the fall, then I'm done letting them bathe together. i have no problem right now with them doing so. There have been no questions, no comments made, and I don't think my children should be ashamed that one is a boy, and the other is a girl. But I have been teaching privacy, and respecting other's privacy (ie no coming in the room if Mommy is changing, etc). BUT no one does things the same as everyone else, and we all parent differently. There is nothing wrong w/ someone who doesn't agree with the co-ed bathing, and there is nothing wrong w/ the person who does agree with it
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Opposite sex or not, I think once they are school aged it's time to start bathing alone. That's when privacy starts to become an issue with kids.
Mine are 1 and 2 and they bath together every night :)
My oldest is 4 and my youngest is 2 and I see nothing wrong with that. My daughter did once point to her younger brother and ask what's that? I answered her honestly and said thats his penis. I am not going to make her feel insecure by telling her not to look.
Well here is the story behind the question. When my sister was here yesterday she told me that she could not believe that I let James who is 4.5 watch me change his little sister who is 1 (Julia) and that I should be taking her in another room. That is when I laughed at her, not really knowing if she was serious or not and I told her that I let them bath together too. She got REALLY mad at me and told me that I am not supposed to let kids the opposite sex bath together after the age of 3. I have NEVER heard this before, I told her. And she said that it is because at the age 3 they really start to notice body parts of others. Has anyone else heard this before?
I work with children and I have never been told that before. I know as children get older that is not appropriate, but at such young ages I see no harm in it.
I dont agree with letting kids bath together, I no ppl do it and thats them i dont care but I would never it just doesent seam right to me. A diaper change is a bit different, you cant always take the child out of the room.
Personally I don't think I'd bath my children together at any age simply for hygeine reasons.
I bath my babies together everynight (15 mths and 2 yrs). Its so convenient and they seem to really enjoy spalshing around with eachother. I think when they are preschool aged or so it may be inappropriate. Yeah..maybe around 4.
If you can't let a sibling at a young age be part of helping to change a diaper, I think it's going too far. My first three are boys, and my last two are girls, and my boys enjoy helping me change the baby's diaper. They've been instructed on privacy issues (only you touch you, knock on closed doors, etc.), but we are sooooo messed up in our society on that stuff. Yes, as children age they should not be bathing together, but you can make TOO big of a deal about it, and instead of diaper changing and baths being normal, we'd rather make them uncomfortable about those things, and then when they are older expose them to our s**ually-charged culture. I personally think you're fine with the ages your kids are, and your sister is being too uptight. It's very innocent and a great chance to let him be a big helper.
No offense, but someone who can't use the word SEXUALLY should probably rethink how they give advice on sexuality...
Hygiene? Are you nuts? So what, do you clean and disinfect the bath tub every time it is used? LOL
No, but sharing bath water doesn't seem very clean to me...especially when one child may have peed or something.
so you dont let your children swim in public pools then? lol, because everyone knows how much pee is in a pool in a day. I mean,if youre not going to wash the tup after say, one kid has peed in it and then the other kid sits in the same tub with no water, its pretty much the same thing.
No, he swims in pools...but pools are also full of chemicals that the bath water isn't and the purpose of the pool isn't to get clean.
i dont think its good to bath the kids together and yes i do wash the tub before i will give the kids a bath. I also give them a shower first because I dont like sitting in dirty bath water so once the kids were old enough to stand up really well I started this. We also take our kids swimming but as soon as we get home its bath time. Every parent is different and it also has alot to do with how you were raised so do whatever you think is best for your kids as long as they are being taken care of and loved thats all that matters.
I'd be more concerned with the chemicals in a pool than with a bit of pee in a tub....
Good for you...personally, I'd rather not WASH my children in pee water if I can help it.
I think its is perfectly fine to bath your children together. I think by the time they start school, then it is time for them to bath alone. But while they are still young, I think there is definitely no problem in them bathing together. And about washing the tub and making your kids shower before they get in, all I can say is wow. Obviously your kids dont go to daycare or playgroups if you are that concerned because I am pretty sure being around other children and their germs would be alot worse than some dirt in the bathtub.
Kids are fine to bath together, and pee is cleaner than pool chemicals... this is way out of hand!
I have to laugh at some of the comments. Just because we are all mothers, and if someone tries to put down what we are doing as a Mom, we get VERY defensive .. obviously! LOL
In regards to pee in the tub .. well your own child could be in that tub alone, and still Pee in that water .. so what's the difference? lol And I agree that the chemicals found in public pools are much worse for a child then a little pee in a tub.
Showering your child, then bathing? .. this is just MY opinion, i'm certainly entitled to it, but don't you think your being a tad bit neurotic? When I read that, I immediately thought of Bree from Desperate Housewives lol . Not that having a clean child is a bad thing! .. but wow, that's a little nuts!
Last, but not least .. to comment on what this post is really about. My children do bathe together. one is 4.5 and the other is 2. And when my oldest starts Kindergarten in the fall, then I'm done letting them bathe together. i have no problem right now with them doing so. There have been no questions, no comments made, and I don't think my children should be ashamed that one is a boy, and the other is a girl. But I have been teaching privacy, and respecting other's privacy (ie no coming in the room if Mommy is changing, etc).
BUT no one does things the same as everyone else, and we all parent differently. There is nothing wrong w/ someone who doesn't agree with the co-ed bathing, and there is nothing wrong w/ the person who does agree with it
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