"I am so nervous about leaving my son with a baby sitter. I really want to be able to go out with my husband once a week because I think it is healthy for us. We are young parents and though were were together for 2 years before we had out son, I don't want us to miss out on having time for us to get to know one another and not be parents for a few hours. How do you get over this? I want to add that I do have a sitter but I will only go out and use her when my son is in bed. Am I being silly?"-April
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i don't blame you for feeling this way. I feel the same way. The only time my husband and i go out now is when my parents in law are willing to take him for an overnight stay. (which is only once every 6 weeks or so.) We don't have another sitter to watch him for a couple of hours either but i'm sure we and you too can find someone trustworthy by asking friends, coworkers for some references on babysitters they are using?!
I am the same way. We only go out after putting the baby down for the night and when one of the Grandmas are available. We don't like to ask more then once every two months or so. We really do need to spend more time together. But I don't know if I am comfortable with a sitter. I guess I will never know unless I try but I don't know if I am ready yet.
how old are your babies?
april
Mine is now 11 months...I have the second posting.
We only use Grammy to but she has a few other grandchildren so its not often we go out at all with out the kids anyway but we do go out to eat twice a month with the kids and so far we have only been asked to leave 1 place. I dont think I could leave my kids with a babysitter because u never no what is going on once you leave but a friend of mine who does not have kids told me I should get a couple of cheep cameras and put them in the house but not tell the sitter they are there I have not done it but im thinking about it and just go out for a couple of hours.
I dont think there is anything wrong with that. If thats what it takes for you to be able to trust someone with your most precious little people, then I think that is fine. And if afterwards the sitter found out, they have no reason to be mad since they are there to do one job and that is watch your children.
There is certainly nothing wrong with being cautious when it comes to your little ones. I think cameras around the house is a bit excessive and I would be quite uncomfortable if I found out someone was secretly filming me, (regardless of the reason). I have recently had two potential babysitters over to my house to meet my child and to chat with them. To find them, I asked someone I trusted, who had used these babysitters themselves for their three children. I have come to learn a lot about these sitters and their families. Asking a lot of questions is important and so is going with your gut. \
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