i am considering giving my baby on the way a pacifier but people keep telling me its too hard to take them away... what do you suggest, and what age is a good age to take them away from baby?
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It depends entirely on the baby. My oldest took a pacifier with no problems and it didn't effect breastfeeding him in the slightest. He loved that thing and had it all the time. Then one day when he was about 4 and a half months old, he learned that he could pull it out of his mouth and put it back in. One day he pulled it out, looked at it strange and tossed it aside and never wanted it again. Now my daughter on the other hand...she won't even take one. She gets this look on her face like you've absolutely insulted her by even trying to give her one.
So really, your baby may not even like a pacifier, may have no trouble giving it up or you may have a really hard time. I think around a year is probably more than old enough to give it up if they don't give it up on their own before that.
I have 3 kids (7,4&2)and my first 2 had pacifiers and I loved the leverage it gave me when I wanted them to stay in bed or pick up toys. The only advice that I can give a mother-to-be is that you should trust yourself and do what you feel is right for your situation.
I have never tried to take one away from a baby but I to have heard it is quite difficult. I never used one with my children and they were fine. It is a normal part of development for a newborn to cry so let them. You can soothe them by holding, rocking and cuddling them. By 6 months your baby should be able to self-soothe and not need an attachment item to do it for them. In fact they will develop this skill much faster if there is no prop for them to rely upon.
I for one am not against giving a baby a soother for bedtimes, but i really hate seeing a kid playing as happy as can be with a soother in their mouth. Soothers are for soothing and a happy baby does not need soothing. I watched a show one time and there was an almost 1 year old baby who had one, and the baby wasnt even sitting up! let alone crawling! when the mother sought out support from other moms and finally decided to take the soother the kid got back on track with her peers!
I suggest if you are going to use it, keep it under control, and use it only for bedtimes. take it away when you feel that your child may becoming too reliant on it. You dont want to wait too long. I know a lot of toddler who still have theirs.
I didn't even question giving my kids a soother. I took my oldests away when he was 2, he only had it at night by that point. I didn't have any problems taking it away. My youngest loves his. He is a very good baby but has his cranky times and it helps him calm down faster while we are rocking him or bouncing with him.
I took Austin's when he was 6 months. I actually lost them, and it just kinda worked out! LOL I am inthe process of taking away Olivia's (she's 1) She does cry for it, but not for very long, (maybe about a min or less) She hasn't had it for 3 or 4 days now.
my daughter used one and when she was 7 or 8 months old i started only giving it to her for naps and bedtime. and then one night i took it away completely when she was 9 months. she did cry some but i was also trying something new to get her sleeping (which included taking away her soother) after a couple days it really didn't bother her anymore. and my son uses one and i plan to take it away much in the same way by 6 months if his doesn't give it up by then on his own.
We use one but our baby is quite content and does't even really care for the "sookie" I woudn't care if we didn't have one and we didn't take one to the hospital with us. I made a huge mistake though. One of the nurses told me that I should get one because he just liked to suck. I didn't follow his cues that he was trying to develop my milk supply. Now I have had a hard time getting enough to feed him. This may not have been a result of the pacifier although if he had of been at my breast it would have given more stimulation.
i am considering giving my baby on the way a pacifier but people keep telling me its too hard to take them away... what do you suggest, and what age is a good age to take them away from baby?
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It depends entirely on the baby. My oldest took a pacifier with no problems and it didn't effect breastfeeding him in the slightest. He loved that thing and had it all the time. Then one day when he was about 4 and a half months old, he learned that he could pull it out of his mouth and put it back in. One day he pulled it out, looked at it strange and tossed it aside and never wanted it again. Now my daughter on the other hand...she won't even take one. She gets this look on her face like you've absolutely insulted her by even trying to give her one.
So really, your baby may not even like a pacifier, may have no trouble giving it up or you may have a really hard time. I think around a year is probably more than old enough to give it up if they don't give it up on their own before that.
I have 3 kids (7,4&2)and my first 2 had pacifiers and I loved the leverage it gave me when I wanted them to stay in bed or pick up toys. The only advice that I can give a mother-to-be is that you should trust yourself and do what you feel is right for your situation.
I have never tried to take one away from a baby but I to have heard it is quite difficult. I never used one with my children and they were fine. It is a normal part of development for a newborn to cry so let them. You can soothe them by holding, rocking and cuddling them. By 6 months your baby should be able to self-soothe and not need an attachment item to do it for them. In fact they will develop this skill much faster if there is no prop for them to rely upon.
I for one am not against giving a baby a soother for bedtimes, but i really hate seeing a kid playing as happy as can be with a soother in their mouth. Soothers are for soothing and a happy baby does not need soothing. I watched a show one time and there was an almost 1 year old baby who had one, and the baby wasnt even sitting up! let alone crawling! when the mother sought out support from other moms and finally decided to take the soother the kid got back on track with her peers!
I suggest if you are going to use it, keep it under control, and use it only for bedtimes. take it away when you feel that your child may becoming too reliant on it. You dont want to wait too long. I know a lot of toddler who still have theirs.
I didn't even question giving my kids a soother. I took my oldests away when he was 2, he only had it at night by that point. I didn't have any problems taking it away. My youngest loves his. He is a very good baby but has his cranky times and it helps him calm down faster while we are rocking him or bouncing with him.
I took Austin's when he was 6 months. I actually lost them, and it just kinda worked out! LOL I am inthe process of taking away Olivia's (she's 1) She does cry for it, but not for very long, (maybe about a min or less) She hasn't had it for 3 or 4 days now.
my daughter used one and when she was 7 or 8 months old i started only giving it to her for naps and bedtime. and then one night i took it away completely when she was 9 months. she did cry some but i was also trying something new to get her sleeping (which included taking away her soother) after a couple days it really didn't bother her anymore. and my son uses one and i plan to take it away much in the same way by 6 months if his doesn't give it up by then on his own.
We use one but our baby is quite content and does't even really care for the "sookie" I woudn't care if we didn't have one and we didn't take one to the hospital with us. I made a huge mistake though. One of the nurses told me that I should get one because he just liked to suck. I didn't follow his cues that he was trying to develop my milk supply. Now I have had a hard time getting enough to feed him. This may not have been a result of the pacifier although if he had of been at my breast it would have given more stimulation.
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